Appearances can be deceiving. Don’t judge a book by its cover. These sayings remind us that we all too readily jump to conclusions about people based on what we see on the surface. I’d add that even what people tell you about themselves isn’t necessarily very helpful, especially if you don’t know them well. Until a person trusts you, they’re likely to be very selective in the personal information they share.
I’d also like to thank everyone who has left kind, caring, encouraging comments on my posts over the last few days. What you’ve shared with me has been heart-warming and quite extraordinary; this has to be the most healing and blessed time of my life and I’m truly grateful to you all.
From the comments received there are two quotes that I’d like to share back with you and they beautifully illustrate what’s in my first paragraph. I’m also learning about Giving And Receiving or, in this case, Receiving and Giving!
“It makes me think of something my grandaughter told me; Be careful with the 20, you don’t know the 80. I was blown away that such wisdom came from a 14 year old. Basically it means we see 20% of a person and we have no idea about the 80% we don’t see so be kind to each other.”
I was really blown away with the above which was shared with me by a fellow Kiwi. I read it to Nigel and he was equally impressed and dubbed it The Iceberg Principle.
The second gem: “I remember as a teenager, when human nature perplexed me, my Father would say : “Everyone has a story, many remain untold.” It took me many, many years to understand what he was really trying to tell me.”
The Iceberg Principle
This lovely illustration is one I found at Pixabay, by MoteOo. The idea of The Iceberg Principle came from Nigel, his response when I shared the first quote with him.
Posted by Liz; Exploring Colour (2018)
Of those who have read the story, I believe that illustration will dwell in many minds. 🙂
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I hope so, then we’ll all be kinder to each other.
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I am so happy for you Liz, I completely understand what it is like to unfold throughout the blog space, almost forgetting that it goes out from your living room, bedroom or garden shed, and out into the world to be read by others and, when you see the reactions, the kind comments, the other tales being shared along the way, it’s like a huge hug of warmth.
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So beautiful, yes it really IS just like a huge hug of warmth 🙂
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Wonderful! Thanks for sharing the quotes and the picture, Liz. They’re perfect.
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You’re welcome Jane! Thanks!
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what a great visual of the 80/20 rule in that iceberg! So glad you receied so many kind, encouraging words!
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I’ve been so blessed Jodi! And I was really fortunate to find such a perfect iceberg illustration!
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The Iceberg Principle is pure genius. That girl is 14 years wise! I am writing that down, so that I can repeat it whenever the need arises. I am pleased and proud that my Father’s words spoke to you. Thank-you!
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I always love to receive your comments Ellen, they’re a real gift!
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The iceberg principle is a wise one indeed!
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Isn’t it? It’ll help me keep this piece of wisdom in my mind as I recall images much better than info!
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